I thought I was friends with money.
I thought I had a good relationship with money because I worked with numbers, and I did – other people’s money! I was able to detach my emotions and clearly “see” what drama a client was acting out through their business. (And my guess is you probably can do the same thing.)
But when it came to my own personal relationship with money, I wasn’t doing so great. I had challenges around so many aspects of my relationship with money that ran the full gambit of emotions from feeling guilty in my 20’s about making more money than both my parents combined, to discounting my hourly rate (and then the package rates) and STILL providing premium work, to paying myself last or not at all and everything in between.
My relationship with money, like most people was emotionally charged and as the owner of my own business I had no choice but to take a closer look at it or go back to the corporate world and find a job.
One of the things I learned is that there is no difference between your spiritual worth and your monetary worth and that my bank account was an expression of how I was feeling on the inside. Yikes! I had a lot of work I needed to do around my relationship with money!
A mentor of mine asked me this very important question:
“How do you treat the person you call your best friend? Then ask yourself, if money were your best friend, why aren’t you treating them that way?
This was an eye opener for me and I learned that in order to consistently manifest money in my business/life and begin to really claim my value, all of the following MUST be in alignment: feeling, thinking, speaking, and action.
So here’s an exercise you can do to begin to help you explore your relationship with money:
Take out any denomination of paper money and place it in front of you. Look at the bill and ask yourself these questions and write down your answers:
- Money, how do I really feel about you?
- Money, how do I treat you?
- Money, how can I have more of you?
- Money, is there anything else you would like to tell me?
Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. Your answers are exactly the right answers for you. The purpose of this exercise is to create awareness around how you feel about money. Your feelings about money have a direct impact in the way you feel about the services you provide. I encourage you to be in conversation with money – you will be amazed at what you learn about yourself. I know I was!